Rebuilding Trust

Rebuilding Trust in Your Husband

You might be wondering how it is possible to rebuild trust with the most untrustworthy person in your life. That person unfortunately is your husband. This is what happens when a spouse has a secret, hidden sin in pornography. This secret tears you completely apart and shatters your heart. The most difficult thing can be that it destroys all trust.

Your husband may be at a place where he has repented and would like to earn your trust back. This article will offer several suggestions to try to rebuild trust in your husband after pornography.

The most important thing to know is that ultimately, we trust in God. God is the only one who is fully worthy of our trust. He is the only one we will ever know who is completely faithful and will never fail us. That is so essential to remember because our husband will fail us. He may not fail with pornography again, but he will fail us in some way. We must expect that. This is why we all need to rely daily on God. God will guide us and guide our husbands, but only God can meet all our needs.

In order to rebuild trust, we must be willing to slowly let our husband back into our hearts. This can be so painful because we do not want to and we may be fearful that he will hurt us again. God will be with you as you open up your heart to your husband.

Have a time each day set aside for talking, praying, and reading. This is essential for honesty and openness. You should use this time to pray over your marriage and what you are rebuilding. Next, you should openly talk about your days. You can explain to your husband that you need to hear about his life, struggles, and temptations in order to gain back trust in his word. Lastly, you can spend time reading a Godly devotional or book that you both can learn and grow from.

Try to do fun things with your husband again. This can be anything from a date, playing a game, watching a movie, or whatever else you enjoy doing together. Try not to dwell on all the things you are working through during this time. This can be a stress-free time, sort of like a break, from all the hurt you are going through. You may start to realize the things you still love and enjoy about your husband.

Talk to your husband about the things that you need in order to rebuild honesty. That will look different for each wife. Some need very honest communication. Some people like an accurate account of their husband’s day. You have to decide what is really most important to you and discuss that with your husband.

Lastly, develop a very close relationship with God. Spend time daily praying and reading God’s word. God will comfort you and speak to you about how to trust your husband again.

Please add to this list as there are many other things that can be helpful in rebuilding trust.