Facing a betrayal from a spouse can be one of the most painful experiences we will ever encounter in our lives. Our husband, the one that we trust the most and love so deeply, has willingly caused destruction and heartache to our marriage and life. Therefore, there may be many times that we can get “stuck” in raw emotion.
Whether it be anger, depression, regret, sadness, or any other emotion you might find it almost impossible to overcome. When tragedy in our marriages come, we can have intense feelings. They can start to dominate our whole lives, making it impossible to go through the day and follow God’s purpose.
I would like to give you some things to try when you feel controlled by emotions due to your husband’s sin.
Find a quiet place where you can be alone for a few minutes. Choose a Bible verse that speaks to your heart and pertains to your emotions. Meditate on that verse. Say it several times. Pray that God would take away the emotions that are controlling you. Ask God to fill your mind and heart with his comfort and to give you relief from focusing on what your husband has done.
Write down all the thoughts that are consuming you. Fill up pages if you must. When you are done, put it away and make a vow not to think of anything you have written for the rest of the day.
Get out and do something fun that you love to do. Enjoy what you have chosen just for you. It’s great to put aside the troubles for a short while to have some relief and enjoyment.
Write about what your feeling on this site! Go to the personal stories page. Write down everything that’s going on with you and know that others are praying for you.
Commit to believing that God opened your eyes to this sin for a reason. God can use this to make your marriage more beautiful than it ever was. Your husband needs full repentance and commitment to God. If this sin was not brought to light, most likely that would not have happened. Trust God that he can cleanse your husband’s heart of impurity and make your marriage new. God can take awful, messy things and make them into something beautiful.
I did not put any strategies for changing your husband in this post. Those ideas can be found under Breaking the Addiction. Sometimes, even if our husbands are doing everything right, we can still be stuck in our emotions. That’s why this post concentrates on how to help you despite how your husband is doing.