After ten years of marriage, I discovered that my husband had a secret addiction to pornography. I was completely clueless about this addiction. After knowing that I wanted to stay married to him, I knew we had a lot of work to do in our marriage. Before this discovery I realized that we were living in a fake relationship. In other words, we were two broken people that kept our true selves hidden. We thought we were in love and that we had a wonderful marriage. However, underneath this, we were both suffering.
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Psalm 30:2 (NKJV):
O Lord, my God, I cried out to You, and You healed me.
When our marriage is being restored, we greatly need a healer. We need the One who will come into our lives and mend the broken places. There are so many areas that need the miraculous touch of our Savior. These areas are in our marriage, but also in ourselves. That is why today’s verse is about God’s healing.
Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying,
“This is the way, walk in it,”
Whenever you turn to the right hand
Or whenever you turn to the left.
Isaiah 30:21 (NKJV)
This verse is an essential part of my life. It describes how I try to live my life. This way of living is not easy. It involves total reliance on God. I have failed living life this way and I still do fail many times. However, each day I renew my commitment to follow God. How do we do this? How do we make a commitment to follow God and actually live it out? This can be especially difficult when we’re right in the middle of heartache. I would like to explain how I choose to follow God each day.
When we go through a crisis, we often forget about being healthy. We are so caught up in our emotions and stress that we make things worse by forgetting how to take care of ourselves. I can see a clear distinction in the way I handled my marriage stress when I was healthy versus unhealthy. I am not just talking about our body being healthy, although this is very important. I am talking about our mind and soul being healthy too. What makes this so difficult is that when we are right in the middle of this stressful time, the last thing we tend to think about is how “healthy” we are. But, it makes a really big difference in how you feel and how you react to the stresses around you. This is why I want to share with you some important ways to stay healthy even when you’re in the middle of a marriage crisis.
I thank You for Mother’s Day. I thank You for all the mothers. Please be with each mother that is not celebrating. Bring her your peace and comfort. If her husband is addicted to pornography or recovering from pornography, please be with their marriage.