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Cleansing Our Minds
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy- meditate on these things. (NKJV)
Today we are going to talk about cleansing our minds. One thing that I always hear from marriages is their worry about having pure minds. Many wives are very concerned with the thoughts that remain in their husbands’ minds from watching pornography.
Even when our husbands actively turn away from pornography and lust, the memories are still there. This is a very sad consequence of watching pornography. Once you watch it, it doesn’t leave you for a very long time.
Because of this tragic issue in marriage, I am going to focus on this topic today. I am also going to have a follow up post from my husband for specific ways that can help men with this issue.
I first want to say that if you are a wife who has found out your husband has watched pornography, please choose not to look up what he watched. I know it is really tempting to want to see what our husbands are so interested in and if we are getting the reports of internet history, we may be curious to see what it is all about. However, I firmly believe that God does not want us wives to “check it out” even for a second. It will haunt you and make you feel sick. If you have already seen a lot of what your husband has seen, you can choose today to stop looking these things up. You can also follow along with this Bible study for God’s cleansing of our minds. I was very tempted to look at what my husband did just to see why he was so drawn to this. But, I chose not to. And I am very glad that I made that choice.
Please take the time as a couple to meditate on the above Bible verse. This verse is so important in restoring your marriage. It is so important that you might want to add it to your daily prayers. This verse can bring God’s miraculous healing into your marriage.
This verse promises that if we actively choose to think about and dwell on the pure and honorable things, God will bless us. This verse is a model of how we are to live daily in our marriage.
This verse speaks greatly to me because it helps me know that God wants me to let the terrible things my husband did out of my mind. Each day I can choose to think about something else. I can think about God’s goodness. I can think about how my husband is trying to follow God and seek my trust again. There are many things I can think about. God instructs me to not dwell on the bad things of the past and present.
This verse speaks to my husband because it reminds him to think of pure thoughts. It helps him to turn away from lust. This verse is wonderful to memorize because in a tempting moment, you can recall this verse to flee from lust and sin.
Over time you can both forget these bad, destructive thoughts.
Please meditate on this verse and pray over it. Ask each other what it means to you personally and how you can use it to follow God.
Thank You that You have told us to forget about the bad things. You want us to forget the horrible past. You want us to flee from lustful thoughts. You want us to dwell on the good changes You are bringing. Even when those good things are hard to find, You want us to think of them. God, this can be so hard at times. Please help us. Please bring this verse to the center of our lives so we can truly live it daily. We thank You God that You can restore our marriage.
In Jesus’ Name,