Restoring Marriages Bible Study: Day 4

Marriage Restored

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Psalm 30:2 (NKJV):

O Lord, my God, I cried out to You, and You healed me.

When our marriage is being restored, we greatly need a healer. We need the One who will come into our lives and mend the broken places. There are so many areas that need the miraculous touch of our Savior. These areas are in our marriage, but also in ourselves. That is why today’s verse is about God’s healing.

Do you know what truth often amazes me? There are many times that I think I need more healing than my husband. It took him more than 15 years before he fully surrendered his life to Jesus Christ. He was stubborn, selfish, and living a life of total sin. However, when he found freedom from that sin in God, his life drastically changed. He was healed by God. Today he is walking in freedom from pornography. There was a time when he couldn’t imagine ever being free from that sin. It had more power in his life than any other sins.  He has such joy in his new life. It truly is amazing.

Yet, when I take a good look at my own life, I notice that there are many times I still have a lot of growing to do. I can so easily get stuck in bitterness, unforgiveness, and pain. There are many times that I stop the restoration of our marriage by dwelling on the painful years. It can be so hard to live in today.

There really is no one that needs more or less healing than someone else. We all need the power of God’s healing in our lives. But, it sure does seem like I need more healing sometimes! The whole purpose of explaining all this is because sometimes we can focus too greatly on our husband’s healing. We concentrate of what he’s doing to overcome lust, to grow close to God, to spend time with the family. And we forget about how desperately we, as wives, need healing.

Today’s verse says that I cried out to God and He healed me. I don’t know what you’re thinking when you read that, but for me it sounds wonderful. Imagine that we can take all of our hurts, all our bitterness, all our painful memories and bring them to God. We can cry out to Him and He will heal us of them. Did you know that this does not mean some of our painful memories? It means all of them. Every hurt that we have, God will heal. This is hard for me to fathom. I understand God will heal my hurt that my husband looked at pornography. But, will He really heal the deep pain of knowing that my husband secretly met another woman for coffee when I was pregnant with our third child? Maybe you have a similar scenario. Maybe you believe God will heal some things in your life, but that it would be impossible for you to be healed of the really painful things. I want you to know and truly believe today that God will heal you of all your hurts. All you have to do is cry out to Him and accept His healing in your life. You can even do this right with your husband.

As for husbands, it’s truly possible for God to heal you of pornography addiction and lust. I know because I have watched my husband receive healing. You have to commit your life to God and ask Him to guide you throughout every single day for the rest of your life. You have to accept the help of your wife and be willing to be honest and open about your struggles. And you have to accept God’s healing.

Lastly, your marriage can have great healing. God is waiting for you to cry out to Him together so that He can heal your marriage. His power will come into your life and work throughout your whole marriage. This means every aspect of it. It can be so very hard to place our trust in Him, but it is worth it. He will bring both of you closer than you ever could have been without going through these struggles. It is our faith in God that brings us closer to each other.

Dear Healing God,

We cry out to You today. We bring all our pain, doubt, and struggles to You. We bring our painful memories of hurt and devastation. We bring our powerlessness over lust. We bring every area of our marriage that needs Your healing. We lay it all down before You, God. We know that You are the only One that can bring true, lasting healing. You promised that You would heal us. We believe that and we accept that today. Please be with us each step as we accept Your healing over every hurt and trial we come across. We thank You so much dear God for Your amazing, restoring power.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen

How are you doing in accepting God’s healing? Feel free to share below or to add any prayer requests. I am praying for all of you.

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3 thoughts on “Restoring Marriages Bible Study: Day 4

  1. What do you do when your husband is an unbeliever? My husband was watching porn and going to strip clubs. I don’t think it was an addiction because the only place I could find links were on his phone. He was flirting with other women and even had a few numbers on his phone including one of a stripper. Obviously he has a problem with lust. Since I found out about all of this in the beginning of April, he has promised to stop watching porn and going to strip clubs. He has allowed me to put blocks on our home internet and directly on his phone. He has stopped going to work parties (where he was flirting and meeting women). He is spending lots of time with the kids and I. He is moving in the right direction but there is no repentance to God over all these things. There is no conviction of sin. He says he is making the changes because he wants to be with me and he wants me to be happy. What do I do or say to him?


  2. Hi Whitelily227,
    I am so sorry that you went through this in your marriage. I think it’s a really great thing that your husband wanted to make all those changes for you and the kids. As for not turning to God, I think you should pray for him and ask God for opportunities to approach him. You can bring it up in little ways here and there. You can also ask him if he would be willing just to pray with you about your marriage. Then you might ask him if he could read one chapter a day in the Bible with you. God will guide you in the times to do this. It can seem very difficult at first, but it is truly amazing when things start to happen that we never thought were possible. God opens those doors for us. Basically, you’ll know what to do and what to say as you seek God in this. Please keep us updated on how it goes and know that I am praying for you and your husband.


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